UPDATE: A recent social media exchange has ignited urgent discussions about etiquette and rudeness in professional and social settings. A man’s unsolicited comments about another’s career, following a funeral reception, have raised eyebrows and prompted questions about polite responses.
During an informal gathering in Kansas City, a gentleman reached out on social media to express regret over what he perceived was a “frustrating career” of an acquaintance. The man, who recognized this individual from high school debate competitions, caught the attention of many after his comments went viral online.
Just two days ago, he sent a message stating it was nice to see the couple again, but the implication of his remark regarding the other person’s career sparked outrage among social media users. Many are now asking: what constitutes a polite response to such an intrusive comment?
Miss Manners, a renowned etiquette expert, weighed in on the matter. She stated that the recipient of the message could have clarified his career’s challenges and successes, while also suggesting that the gentleman’s remarks warranted no response. This perspective has resonated with those who value respectful communication.
In another related query, a member of a local writers group raised concerns about the lack of politeness among peers when making requests. Despite having a graduate degree and experience in writing, the individual often receives commands rather than requests, prompting frustration. This issue of respect and communication in group dynamics highlights an urgency to address how we interact, especially in collaborative settings.
Miss Manners advised the writer to communicate their preferences by stating, “I don’t mind doing things for the group, but my schedule gets busy. Please make your requests in advance.” This approach not only emphasizes the importance of respect but also reinforces that time and effort are valuable.
Another question posed to Miss Manners relates to restaurant etiquette, specifically the common greeting “How are we doing?” by servers. Many patrons find this phrasing pretentious and unnecessary, questioning why servers include themselves in the interaction. Miss Manners acknowledged this sentiment, offering a light-hearted reminder of the complexities of modern communication.
These discussions are striking a chord, as more individuals seek to navigate the nuances of social interactions in a digital age. The urgency for clear, respectful communication is more pertinent now than ever, as social media blurs the lines between personal and professional exchanges.
What happens next? As these dialogues continue to unfold online, individuals are encouraged to reflect on their communication styles and consider the impact of their words. The conversation around etiquette is evolving, making this an ideal moment for everyone to reassess how they engage with others—both in person and digitally.
Stay tuned for ongoing updates and more insights from Miss Manners as this topic develops. The need for effective communication strategies is imperative, and the impact of our words can shape relationships for years to come.
