A New York woman has expressed her concerns over her friend’s unconventional name choices for her unborn daughter. The friend, referred to as Cindy, is six months pregnant and has been sharing potential names that she finds appealing, despite their meanings.
In a letter addressed to advice columnist Dear Abby, the concerned friend, who signed off as Normally Named, described her struggle to persuade Cindy against names that could subject the child to ridicule. After much deliberation, Cindy agreed to drop the name Chlamydia, but she has now turned her attention to the name Cliché. This has led to further frustration for Normally Named, who has also objected to names like Bidet and Chalet.
According to Normally Named, Cindy’s family appears to support her choices, complicating her efforts to steer her friend in a different direction. “I only want to help an innocent child avoid a lifetime of ridicule and stress,” the letter states.
In response, Abby provided suggestions for alternative names with more positive connotations. She recommended Kalista, Lydia, Olympia, or Andromeda, names that are both beautiful and carry significant meanings. Abby urged Normally Named to refrain from further suggestions if Cindy continues to dismiss her concerns.
In another letter featured in the same column, a college student identified as Closeted in the Midwest detailed their struggle with asexuality. For two years, they have concealed their sexual orientation from their family, who hold conservative views. The student has recently considered coming out to a select group of peers but is anxious about the potential backlash from their family, particularly in light of a planned road trip to meet someone they met online.
Closeted in the Midwest expressed concern that revealing their asexuality might jeopardize their budding relationship and complicate family dynamics. Abby advised the student to prioritize their comfort and to postpone any announcements about their sexual orientation until they feel ready. She reassured them that asexuality is valid and should not be a point of conflict with their family’s beliefs.
Abby’s responses highlight the complexities of personal relationships and the challenges of navigating societal expectations, especially regarding naming conventions and sexual orientation. Her advice encourages individuals to prioritize their well-being while considering the perspectives of those around them.
For further guidance, readers can contact Dear Abby, written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, who continues the legacy of her mother, Pauline Phillips. The column aims to provide thoughtful advice on a variety of personal issues, fostering a sense of community and understanding.
